Day 8-New Perspective

Sometimes we have to physically do something to instigate change.

After a long week of battling a cold, not getting much sleep, I ventured to enjoy my Friday.  I put on my favorite pair of Red flats that scream fall to me, some comfy pants and a favorite new tunic, hair in a top knot and I was gonna have a great day.

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Then a phone call on the way to work that wasn’t so fun.  30 minutes of my morning taking all that intention and positivity and seeing it swirl down the drain.

Walk to work thinking I’ll wrangle some coworkers to head to Starbucks.  I’m gonna need the caffeine and the walk will probably help.

No one could go.

More swirling.

Then I remembered that I had the power to change my attitude about this day.  No one can make it better or worse but me. It’s all about  my attitude and perspective. Nothing anyone else does or says can control this.  It’s all about my perception of the situation.

I got my headphones and started on my way to Starbucks  by myself. This song I heard earlier this week kept ringing in my ears so I pulled it up.

There’s beauty in my brokenness, I’ve got true love instead of pain, There’s freedom though You’ve captured me. I’ve got joy instead of mourning.

You give me joy, down deep in my soul.

Never been so free caught in your love for me.  Never been more secure knowing your heart Lord.

Yes you do Lord. 

What do you need to do physically to change your perspective?  For me it was a walk, this song and a lovely Americano. Happy Friday friends.

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What I’ve learned: Life is Good

It’s been a few weeks.  Months really.  Life, as it always tends to do, has thrown some curve balls.  I’m finally getting back into a groove.  And life is good, friends.  So good.

For those of you who know me well, you know where I’ve been–physically and in my head–over these past weeks absence.

For those of you who follow my daily twitter/facebook posts–you see the scripture that I’ve been digging into to really find God in the center of this whirlwind.

For those on instagram, you’ve seen photos of good food, good memories and good travels.

For those of you who I’ve been privileged to sit across a table with a good cup of coffee or a meal, you have known my journey over these past months.

I’m excited to be back.  Excited and slowly navigating the curvy path I’ve been on.  I’ve got to stay focused so I don’t fall off the edge, but man, I’m pretty certain the view is going to be spectacular.


It’s good to be loved.

Sometimes I think life has a funny way of teaching us those valuable lessons that could very easily go “unnoticed” if we weren’t  being open to listening to what life (and God) is trying to say to us through the seemingly mundane.

I also have realized that sometimes the “mundane” lessons in life come through the people God places in our lives.  Now, I know this isn’t rocket science, but just hear me out for a second.

I’m confident that there is an interweaving of paths that cross your life–some of those paths are more prominent at differing times, others have a consistent presence.  If you think about what that would look like as a woven fabric, some colors will be very dominant.  Your family.  Mom and Dad.  The life-long friends that you can go months without REAL communication, but the minute you pick up the phone, or walk into your favorite restaurant for lunch, nothing has changed.

There are also those folks who are in life for a season.  Good Lord, how I hated hearing about this growing up.  “Now those friends may not last.”  “Your college friends, they’ll be the ones that you have good memories with, but don’t count on keeping in touch.” Ugh.  How my heart ached at those statements.  Partially because I just wanted to beat the odds and prove someone wrong (is that a red-head tendency I see rearing it’s head?) but moreover, because my heart has always longed for that true lasting connection with others (and that tendency, I believe we all share).  Now sure, it’s a little impossible to think that you’ll keep in touch with all your friends throughout the years.  But chalk it up to being an only child or what have you, I’ve always taken friendships seriously, invested a lot in them, and often have had my heart broken by them.

God has designed us to crave connection, community, and communion with others.  We aren’t meant to live this life alone.  The next few weeks, I’ll be sharing some stories of how community and people have rocked my world lately. As I mentioned, we have had a lot of exciting things happening, but also, honestly, the past month has been hard. I have had more than a few breakdowns (thankfully I have a wonderful hubs who calms me instantly just by being near). I’ve needed people.  I’ve seen what it does to walk into a hospital room with someone by your side, versus alone.  I’ve also had the fortune of being able to bless others lives with that community. That is an even greater feeling–to know you are standing in the gap when someone needs it.  What a beautiful way to be used by our Creator.

I hope that you’ll share some of your own stories of how people have changed you, your circumstances and what your fabric is looking like these days.  Mine is a beautiful mixed tapestry with lots of colors and honestly, it looks a little disheveled, but it is beautiful nonetheless (my affinity for the disheveled is not a new thing).  My prayer today is that you have someone to walk with into the dark rooms of your life.


Just one of those days…

Have you ever had one of those days where you just want to take a deep exhale and hope it lasts for days?  It’s not that you’re unhappy, that things are going poorly at work, or in your relationships or even personally in your spirit.

It’s just that there’s a lot of things going on. You need that release.

Work is busy.  Someone is ill.  Accidents happen.  Plans change.  People move.  You’re responsible.  Goals aren’t met.

I was quite the fan of Audio Adrenaline in my teenage years and there was this one song on their live album that I would hit repeat and listen to for hours in moments like this.  Let’s just say thank God for the refresh button on You Tube, for it’s been my repeat button today.

My prayer is that you can join me in this journey to Rest Easy.

(PS–Be sure to click on the “more info” for the lyrics).

The safety of a dear friend

It’s been a great start to 2009.  Yes, it’s had it’s hiccups, but I’ve felt a fresh perspective each day, have been intentional about doing everything I can to meet my goals, but gracious enough with  myself to realize that sometimes, things happen–LIFE happens–and they don’t get met.  Just let it be that way for that day, and tomorrow, pick yourself up, give a little dusting and get back on the wagon.

I had such a refreshing time with a dear friend last night at Starbucks trying out their new Tea Lattes and sharing some time together.  I asked the barista what the newest drinks were all about and she started describing the London Fog.  At the words “Earl Grey” I was sold.  Picking up my hot cup of the flavor that takes me back to my sophomore year in college (along with Harry Connick’s Come By Me Cd and You’ve Got Mail) and getting in some good conversation was just what the doctor ordered.

I am thankful for those people in life who know how to challenge you in a supportive way, can relate to the work that I do and give you the perspective of life a few years ahead of where I’m currently sitting.  I’ve always been hesitant to be super involved in “singles groups” because I know REALLY well how to be single–I don’t want to stay this way forever. Give me a space I can learn how to be in another stage of life.

I want to learn about your marriage, the challenges and joys.  See into the things that have worked for your in keeping your date nights, or making an element of each day a “date.”  I want to be able to peer into how you parent your 2 year old and how YOU parent your 6 year old.  What led you to make the decision of this pre-school over that one or lead YOU to home-school.

Even before I was dating I wanted to know these things.  Now that I AM dating and am looking toward a bright future with the beau, I am even more interested in knowing all I can NOW.

Deep Breaths


Today many friends are grieving, yet celebrating the rich life of Nathan Smith.  Nathan is now taking breathing just fine as his lungs are no longer plagued with Cystic Fibrosis.  They are breathing in the sweet aromas of heaven.

I met this fellow red-head at the church I attended there and through his cousin Tera whom I lived with my last summer there.  Nathan was an amazing person.  He pursued his passions to be a Physician’s Assistant, gave of himself on several medical missions trips and was an amazing friend and example as he persevered through his physical challenges to make the most of every day he was granted.

Although our heartache runs deep, but nothing compares to those deep breaths you are now taking.

Welcome 2009….

I love a new year.  Just something about it’s freshness that really appeals to me.

Life is funny, ya know?  Things happen you never planned on.  Some good, others not so great.  One of the biggest lessons I feel 2008 taught me however, is that perspective is everything.  I found myself saying it so much people were asking if I was okay–thinking something majorly bad had happened.  That or recommending that I get it tattooed on my body for a reminder (stay tuned for that one).

One of my favorite little take-aways from this holiday season was The Daily Book of Positive Quotations.  It seems it’s been hitting home more than anything ever before lately.  One of the quotes from Albert Ellis said “People don’t just get upset.  They contribute to their upsetness.”  The comments after said “it’s not the events in our lives that upset us.  It’s how we think about them. We can’t control many of the things that happen to us, but we can control how we react to them.”

So true.  I’ve had quite a bit on my mind these past few weeks, so stayed tuned for more updates and feel free to take a look around.  Be nosy.  I’ve updated some of the pages (finally!)